The Play Date
The Play Date
Charlie and Luz discuss today's parenting and playdates.
It's so different from when we were young, playing by ourselves, finding a stick, digging a hole to China, and coming home with dirt stuck in our eyes.
A lot is going on here. Coddling, Overmomming, and helicopter parenting. All in good fun!
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The Play Date
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Charlie, Luz Michelle, charlie pongerLuz Michelle:
Only that deep now you make it our know your voice. I do not sound like this when I listen. Yes I do I hear the nasal it's terrible when I listen to playback of my voice it's like off turn it offcharlie ponger:
we wish you start leave that in. What are youLuz Michelle:
facing this way? Do you ever notice?Charlie:
Yeah, how come Hey everyone. Welcome to the official teenagers. We just did a nice little cold opening. Yeah, we did. And how are you loose debris not here today. Got the microphone going on all over,Luz Michelle:
do anything. Got up and move in the same direction.charlie ponger:
Alright, so you're good now or what? No, I can't make it shorter.Luz Michelle:
I have a singers mic. Yeah, you do have a singers mic. How'd you know that? Yeah, I'm just gonna do that.charlie ponger:
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I'm very happy for having some knee pain. Yeah, because they haven't been working out. Oh, so now I can just take care of it. Yeah, when are working out.charlie ponger:
You got to work out.Luz Michelle:
It's important. It's important it is. I just, I don't know. 2023 is a little bit of a slow slog for me.charlie ponger:
They gave me samples. You got samples for you and your husband.Luz Michelle:
I mean, he'll be done in a day. Mitosischarlie ponger:
so Oh, everyone is a CBD company. And they have full spectrum CBD. And the stuff actually works well it works for me. We're going to find out if it works for losing husband. What's your husband's name? Chris Harrison.Luz Michelle:
Harrison suffers of back pain. So let's saycharlie ponger:
so we haven't seen each other yet. It's been many Yeah, no manage life. Yeah, so I had an MRI. What madeLuz Michelle:
you get an MRI Charliecharlie ponger:
Well, I got man stuff going on. Okay. So I did the MRI. You go in? I don't know but I guess some people freak some people out I fall asleep in the MRI.Luz Michelle:
Where are you in the tunnel? Yeah, it was in the tunnel. Tunnel other tunnel where your head comes out?charlie ponger:
No full tunnel.Luz Michelle:
Wow. Yeah. SoCharlie:
they put you in there they put some serum in your veins or whatever at some point. Right? But they put you in and before they put you in they put headsets on you and I'm like, oh this is natural calm you know we were you and I are in headsets all the time. Yes, I'dLuz Michelle:
be calm Yeah. Me Down.Charlie:
So then he asked me what music I wanted to play. Very nice. I was thinking Black Sabbath Iron Man bom bom bom bom because it made sense. You're in this iron tube, right? But I'd said Grateful Dead. So the first song that came on, was friend of a devil. My granddaughter sings that song all the time. She's for.Luz Michelle:
I love that though. I love that. Yeah.charlie ponger:
So then I fell asleep. Nice. And then the guy you know, he's yelling in your ears in your headset and he woke me up. And but there was something really weird that happened in the MRI movement. Maybe it happens to other people because I the last time I can remember when I was in an MRI.Luz Michelle:
What happened, Charley?Charlie:
I felt my insides moving around. What? Yeah, maybe it's from the serum? No, I don't know. And then all of a sudden, you know, your shoulders are almost touching. They're actually touching the wallsLuz Michelle:
right. Now. Yeah. And classify. ICharlie:
felt my tricep not that I have muscles. But I felt my triceps. They started contracting. They were like twitching. The hell is going on here? Did you ask nah. And then and then. And then. And then it was over. So the results came back? Okay. They weren't the greatest results. So now I have to get as they say in Italian a biopsy. Right? A little more? Yeah. So I figure well, let me let me at least tell my daughters what's happening and you know, clients just in case, right. And they're so friggin busy. You know, it took them like, you know, because I was out there and spending time with them. The chaos that goes on with these kids today. I and then tell me about this because you're 40 So So tell me about this because my kids, my grandkids God loves them. They scream and cry and my daughter's let the kids scream and cry. Okay, I know how you feel. We didn't do that. We didn't do that when we were parenting. Do you do that when you're parenting?Luz Michelle:
I'm more of like a New York City mom.Charlie:
What does that mean?Luz Michelle:
I'll be more straightforward. Like what are you doing? Why are you crying? Why are you screaming? What is happening? Yeah. Are you freaking out? Like I'm more like this? Oh, have a conversation with them and I sound nuts. Oh, soCharlie:
you're not you're not sitting there paid at head nodding their heads going. I understand how you feel, you know that kind of stuff.Luz Michelle:
It's nice to have that it is like if I had that growing up, I think I'd be more kind ish. You're kind. What are you talking? Yeah, well, you know what I mean? Like, I don't really? I'm not a hugger. Hugging makes me uncomfortable. Oh, it does. Yeah, really? And I picked that up for my mom. Oh, really? Yeah, like if you go to hug her she'll patch on the back like a football player. Well, that's how guys hug. know they give a little bit more ItalianCharlie:
guys give a little bit more. They give four taps on the back.Luz Michelle:
How are you? I'm good. How are you?Charlie:
From your Jewish mom.Luz Michelle:
That's it. Oh my god. So I am. I have my kids. Of course. Yeah, my husband. Oh,Charlie:
what about kissing your husband? You kiss him. Good morning and good night. All right. I figured well, you give him more than three. Pat's in the back.Luz Michelle:
I'm a hugger. He's like, Okay. I'm like, I know what you need. And I'll hug you and he's like, this is solving everything. Oh, yeah, he's being very sarcastic. Oh, yes.charlie ponger:
Oh, okay. I don't know Italian guys hug we hug our friends we give gives you give each other kisses the whole thing right? Yeah. Yeah, but you guys kind of we just Well, here's the thing. Why is it that you know, there have to be playdates now what happened to like me when I was a kid, I went in the yard I grabbed a stick literally like dug a hole scratched myself got some something in my eye you know came in the house bloody bleeding or whatever. Didn't you know I lose my you know, and then they clean me up and then that was it. ILuz Michelle:
don't get it again. The next day. Yeah, Icharlie ponger:
don't get it. What is it today that everything is so sterile and protective? And what what's going on here?Luz Michelle:
You know, it helps with socialization. What does playdates? Okay? Think about it if the kids are together five days a week in school. They're always in that element. Yeah. So then if they meet on like a Saturday for lunch, it's like it gives them so much and they get to build more relationships. You got to do the playdates. Well, only thing that sucks is if you don't get along with the parents,Charlie:
I knew no parent when I was growing up, no parents met each other. Now there was like, you know,Luz Michelle:
or it was already an established group, right? That's what me and my mother had. So my mother, we'd go she dropped me with the kids and then she'd go hang out with the mothers and smoke cigarettes or drinking coffee and the kids were all just in one free for all.Charlie:
Oh my god. So here's how I grew up. No neighbors just like now. Alright, get on my bicycle. And go somewhere. Come back at dark.Luz Michelle:
Don't do that anymore. Calm. It's not safe.Charlie:
Why is it not safe? Why was it safe then? And not now?Luz Michelle:
I guess because it's more out there. Now what could happen? The dangerous scary stuff. I don't know. I didn't become a parent. It scares the shit out of me does where I couldn't imagine not taking my bike and being gone all day not checking. We'd have cell phones. Did you do that? You took your bike. And then as I got older, I'd be gone for a weekend. I go out Friday night and come back Sunday like nothing. I couldn't imagine my kids doing that. No, I'd be like where are you? And your parents never said where are you? Right? They did but it was I was so out of control and rebellious my mother trusted me. She knew I was street smart and when do you not stupid but it drove her insane cuz it's like where are you? And I'm like I'm fine.
We will I would run through the woods there's this path through the woods was about a quarter mile. Yeah. And I would go to the street called Lakota terrorists and up at the circle we'd be playing touch football on the asphalt dive in coming home all bloody the whole thing and you came home when I could hear my old man he had such a voice on him when he would Yeah, it was deep and mean he would yell my first name it would you'd hear it all the way the top delicata terrorists and I'd go if I could resign for dinner five o'clock right you know the blue collar guys and so I would if I didn't get back home on time. By the time I got through that door boom. I got a beaten and a half the old days could you imagine today like oh my god, you can't even go out these kids can't even go out and play everything is so freakin organized for them. They're coddled, I think the kids today are coddledLuz Michelle:
Oh, that's what defenses I put there. No, you want i do i go to places with my kids. And yeah, there's that mom who's just overly mommy right? Overly Mom where you're the mom just sitting on the side. Like we're at the kids museum. Right. I'll kind of I'll do that. museum with them and then there's always an area where it's a free for all. Yeah. And then I'll kind of let stay together. But I'm over here. But that no, you got that mom was just following the kid all over and you see this and you see that try this train and it's like let the kid live
overly mommy. Sort of like the equivalents a nice word. I'm gonna use that. Is that the equivalent of mansplaining or one time you told me I was mansplaining?Luz Michelle:
You were and I remember waiting sounding as if I didn't know just wait a minute. Yeah. Yeah. No, that'd be cool. Mom's
cleaning mom's splaining Yeah,Luz Michelle:
I mean, what did you call it again? Overwatch over mommy over momming over. helicopter parent helicopter. Oh, is that another one? Which I can fall into a time still?
are you cheeringLuz Michelle:
me sometimes at a birthday party? Well, you're not participating. Yeah. Oh.
Wait. So the parents stay for the Yeah, the parents stay for the birthday party.Luz Michelle:
I have to hell. Why? I don't know. I'm nervous.
My daughter had my daughter had a birthday party for her four year old and all the parents were there. I was likeLuz Michelle:
a flood young you're not going to drop and go at four. Why? Because you know, all right. Babies. All right. And you know what? Having kids now when I have birthday parties, I do appreciate the parents and stay because it's a lot of kids who watch Oh, your help. They're helping out? Yeah. Like I say just because just because just because these places especially the gross like trampoline places or
oh, they're not a people's houses.Luz Michelle:
Every now and then that's not as it used to be. Oh, yeah. It's more now you have it at a venue and 90 minute party. Windy men want Oh, because it's easier on half hour eating and you're out. You know, go over the minute.
Find the way to organize. I don't get it. Do you approve of on this? Do you like this? I mean, do you think it does it have value like for the kids to be so overseen and all this sort of stuff?Luz Michelle:
What do you mean with the pan staying and stuff? Well, just
the whole thing of the kids being coddled and and the organization of you know, kid, your parents getting the kids together, instead of getting on your bicycle and riding down the street or through the woods or whatever you're going to do, and go hang out with sticks andLuz Michelle:
times. Yeah, often times. If my kids were like, I'm going in the woods for an hour, I'm gonna be a panic attack in the bushes watching, no. What are you doing?
I used to go in the woods. There was a swamp with a stream and I used to pretend I was running back. And I would bring my football in there and run through the stream in the swamp pretending I was getting tackled look at you and imagination and then I'd come back covered in mud all by myself. And then I would go feed ducks. I would take the wonder bread out of the drawer. Right and it would take a couple of slices a Wonder Bread and I would go to a pond and go feed the ducks. My father would take me by myself though I you know why today? Now I don't get I don't understand different times. About hitchhiking. I guess it's out of the question.Luz Michelle:
No, I did once or twice when I was younger. It's terrifying. Yeah. Terrifying.
Oh, my God. Party. When I was growing up, the girls used to hitchhike. Yeah, no more.Luz Michelle:
I'm over. I still see her. There. So you do always be hitchhikers? Yep. I do like a road trip. I'll see you Oh, yeah. All right. So stopping
Yeah. You're not stopping. I almost stopped. Why can'tLuz Michelle:
Oh, who is it for? Who is it for jolly.
It was a woman stuck on the side of the bed. She was beautiful blonde. I also didLuz Michelle:
But I did stop for a guy. There was a snowbank when I was in Truckee, and he slid off the road. Oh God. And so I stopped and said You all right. And he goes I'm fine. I'm fine. That's good. That'sLuz Michelle:
nice. Good being a good human being and I
thought well if What if he said no, I need help. I was frozen. I gotta pull over you got to do the whole thing. Well, you could just make a phone call. Yeah, right there's no cell service there. You're in the middle of nowhere.Luz Michelle:
I don't know Oh, my God. Yeah, no, yeah. Yeah. Now you're in if he said no, you're in Yeah.
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