Forgetful?! Public Speaking Life Hack & Where did my Butt go?

Forgetful, Public Speaking Life Hack & What Happened to My Butt?...

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SUMMARY KEYWORDS

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SPEAKERS

Charlie Ponger, Debbie Charlie

Debbie Charlie: 00:00

Do you have this ready to roll?

Charlie Ponger: 00:10

I was trying to have it ready, roll but you know I'm a bit of a neophyte with all this sort of stuff.

Debbie Charlie: 00:15

Sure. How are you, Charlie?

Charlie Ponger: 00:17

How was your day?

Debbie Charlie: 00:18

Charlie? I can't see driving anymore. I thought it was just at night. Now it's daytime to all of them. One. I'd see if I could see out of this other eye. Oh, within a blink. Thank goodness these cars come with a warning blinker. There's somebody on your backside. Yeah,

Charlie Ponger: 00:34

everyone. I'm here. This is Charlie Ponger. With Debbie Nigro, the famous Debbie Nigro. Oh, look. No,

Debbie Charlie: 00:40

I was holding your booth. No, I didn't know. My boobs. Gift.

Charlie Ponger: 00:44

I found out. I found out today. You were famous. Really? Yeah. Tell me. Well, I went into the liquor store because I had to get you some wine. Oh, the coffee's on.

Debbie Charlie: 00:53

All right. You just keep talking. I'll get scores swore

Charlie Ponger: 00:56

I'm gonna have to bleep that out. There's no swearing on the show. Because we're better than that. Right? Yeah.

Debbie Charlie: 01:02

You know, my whole life. Yeah. In my media career, right. And doing radio and talk radio. A billion words have come out of my mouth. I've never cursed on the air. Because, yeah, I have a self-editing thing in my head. But I also love to be funny. And you don't have to curse to be funny.

Charlie Ponger: 01:20

You don't want to. I think it's far more creative. If you're not swearing and trying to be it's harder

Debbie Charlie: 01:26

to be funny if you're not cursing because curse words are funny. Yeah, right. I go invented them. And they're in every language and everybody knows what they can do. People cursing you in other languages you

Charlie Ponger: 01:35

walked in, we haven't even talked about our shows or anything. And here we are. Isn't that something?

Debbie Charlie: 01:41

I got something funnier for you. But first of all, why am I famous at the liquor store? Oh, because

Charlie Ponger: 01:44

I walked in. And I wanted to get you a bottle of wine. I wanted to get us a bottle of wine. And I said, Hey, we're Hi, Charlie. And I said, Hey, we're doing a new show. What are you doing? I said, I'm doing a podcast with my friend Debbie and I grow. Debbie and I grow. I know Debbie and I grow really? Yeah. I said, How do you know who I've heard her on the radio? I get

Debbie Charlie: 02:05

so excited when people hear about me. Well, because I'm talking to myself every day. Yeah. Radio is a beautiful thing. But you never see anybody see you don't know if there's people know people. They hate you. They love you. The only reason I love radio is because they don't like you. Yeah, and they turn you off. You don't know. You

Charlie Ponger: 02:21

know, they never hurt your feelings. You can't get your feelings hurt not booing you like if you want to

Debbie Charlie: 02:26

hear it. No, it's stand up comedy. Yeah, I've tried that. Yeah, you have. Ah, wow, I'm really good at it. Are you but I'm petrified. Why? Because if they don't like you, there they are. No, you can't. Because what happens is I short wire, like if I'm rolling. Here in a laugh, you're like, Oh, you get excited. And then you get more excited. But you hear nothing. Yeah. Or like, you start to go like in your head and you can't focus some people know how to do that. I prefer not to see people. Oh, you do? I love in person. I don't want you to know in person you could put me into a party. I'm like rent a

Charlie Ponger: 03:02

guest. Speaking you're good at that, aren't you?

Debbie Charlie: 03:06

Once I get rolling? Yeah, yeah. Initially, when I stand up, my ankles start to shake true. Yeah. I was a keynote speaker for Avon Products. Right. Right. And I had five cities. Yeah. And I remember I did the thing with the representative not going there again. But I got to get up and talk. And I look out and it's 2000 people that did it then and then I go, Yeah, then you can't get me off. And then you're good now but then they can't stop me. There's some tricks to Public Speaking will throw things they're like enough with this one.

Charlie Ponger: 03:36

Did you know that there are some tricks to public speaking to get rid of your nervousness. Now? Promise works? What do you mean? So when you're public speaking, because I've done some of that? You find a set of eyes and you stare at them. And you finish your thought? And they get nervous and all your nervous energy goes. Pick it up. Yeah. And then you find another set of eyes and you don't do it like you're bowling but you do kind of you go around the room like that way and the big audience and say, yeah, we'll take it off people. Oh, and they're like, Oh, God, I hope he doesn't look at me next. I have to pay attention

Debbie Charlie: 04:10

loud. It's very cool. That's cool. You torture people. It's nice. Yeah. Well, you know, so. Yeah. What are we talking about? All I know is that I can't see when I'm driving. And that's this. Here's a good laugh. I just looked down to get out of my car to come into your house. And as it is, there's a problem in there. What? Besides needing a car wash like badly, it's like the array of things that are in my car. Like I would be committed. Totally disorganized. I drive my stuff around. Yeah. How much stuff you have to drive around that is not used in your life while you're driving. Well, what kind of stuff? Well, the thing I was going to bring up that I just couldn't believe was still in my car just now was the dirty diaper from my granddaughter from this morning. I didn't want to leave it in the house. I put it in a little bag with other little stuff. And I said I'll drop it off on the way out, but I forgot about that because that's what happens when you're a teenager and we're

Charlie Ponger: 04:59

right Oh, I have some and I'm driving my God. Where was it? Where is it? In the backseat of the front seat?

Debbie Charlie: 05:04

Yeah, it's on the floor in the front because it's in the backseat. I will see it next Christmas. But that's not the first time I've driven my guard garbage around. Oh, well, you

Charlie Ponger: 05:15

know, you talk about forgetful. So today, right, I went out, I was gonna remember I text you and said I was gonna go to the track and go for a walk. Yeah, that didn't happen. Well, no, it happened. But it took me four times to get to get out there.

Debbie Charlie: 05:29

What do you mean? Well, I

Charlie Ponger: 05:30

forgot my wallet. I forgot my water bottle. I forgot my headphones. Right. And so. So

Debbie Charlie: 05:37

how do you how you know you're one of wait, it

Charlie Ponger: 05:40

gets worse. Oh, yeah. So I get the headphone thing. You know, the bugs or whatever they're called. They're the wrong ones. They don't plug into the darn phone so they only plug into the computer. I get to the track. You ready for this guy? My friend Susanna and I are talking on the phone. I get out of the car. I go for my walk 5000 steps. I get back. And there's two cars not so there's three silver Honda Accords. I hear a car running. You can't make this up. Or your car running overnight. It can't be my car. It was no so I left the car running for 45 friggin minutes. And by the way, that's not the first time I've done it. I did it at a store once and I went back. I'm like, My car's running.

06:31

Ah Charlie that’s, really bad. Yeah, really worse shape than I thought, so pathetic.

Charlie Ponger: 06:37

I had so much on my mind. That's part of the problem. I think at least I do.

Debbie Charlie: 06:41

Well, we think we have so much on our mind. Well, we I don't think we have a lot of mind left. We do. I mean, we're I think we're all trying to do too much. Well, too much. Too much at this stage of life. Maybe. Maybe we're not equipped.

Charlie Ponger: 06:56

No, I don't know. But maybe not. Because when you were coming over here, I'm like, I gotta kinda look nice for Debbie when she

Debbie Charlie: 07:02

gets Oh, that's funny Charlie want to look like a bomb? You look nice, you too. Oh, yeah, I love my hair in the car. So I put these blue

Charlie Ponger: 07:09

jeans on. And I just by luck. Caught my ass in the mirror. And it's flat. And I sold my pants. The pants. Were like, you know, the pockets in the back. My pockets were like hanging. I'm like, What happened to my butt? So of course, I put a different pair of pants look a little tighter. But I immediately went to the internet and Googled like, Why two men 60 Plus have flat butts. What can I do about it? making

Debbie Charlie: 07:41

me laugh? We should do a segment on the show. Like what happened to this body part. You know,

Charlie Ponger: 07:47

we had great bodies when we were young.

Debbie Charlie: 07:49

Oh my gosh. If I knew how good looking I was back then I worked it better. Right? I really worked it better I take advantage of it. I know we were good looking people when we did not No no, no. Nobody walked by and said hey, you know you gotta work this because the ink I go so

Charlie Ponger: 08:04

you know what, I noticed that I was no longer attractive at all. Tell me I was in my early 50s and I'm in London on business. And normally that you know, I'm this isn't narcissistic. This is reality. I'm walking to used to your tears in your eyes. I wonder other coffee soon it's gonna be burned. So. So, so true. So I'm in London and you know when I used to working in New York City, you notice it like women would turn their heads and it's nice. I'm in London and how

Debbie Charlie: 08:38

construction sites

Charlie Ponger: 08:44

I noticed I didn't get any looks. Ah, no, that's it. I know. It's a whole different phase of life now.

Debbie Charlie: 08:53

Hey, I was so cute at one time that I didn't even realize it till this happened i i Get off the chain and walking around like who I think I am. My mother would have called it astor's pet horseback them outfits with the heels and the thing and I used to I work it. I was one of the few girls who could walk 100 blocks in Manhattan heels. Really? Yeah. And pretend there was another no problem with that. Okay, the killing You're kidding me?

Charlie Ponger: 09:20

Oh my God.

Debbie Charlie: 09:21

Believe me the bondage pictures had nothing on what was going on. Let me tell you the construction guys. Yeah, so this was a big day for me right because I and I thought it was a really kind of rude to and inappropriate and this is so sexist. I can't even believe I thought this was a good

Charlie Ponger: 09:34

thing. Well, back then the good. The No, even these

Debbie Charlie: 09:38

guys were taking a lunch break and they all had numbers with or Yes, Yuri hardboard numbers written I want to meet those guys. And they were all like, you know, a picture like 12 guys lined up, you know, eating heroes or wedges or things their wives or their wives made them by the way Portuguese, family, wives and girlfriends make great fish lunches first. for construction work, I know this because I grew up in construction. But anyway, so yeah, so I'm walking by and I didn't catch it. They were going to do this till it was too late and I was like, this is really wrong. And they're bringing up numbers. I didn't even want to look. But then I saw I got some biggies. And I went back the other way. Like, I forgot something.

Charlie Ponger: 10:21

Did they give you an Did they give you back again? Did they give you another number of

Debbie Charlie: 10:25

cards? actually asked me to stop walking back and forth, but I was just like, prancing. I was having so much fun now. Oh my god. So. So yeah, I know what you mean. Like when you lose your looks and you're used to having a little something go on? Yeah, like I remember when I was pregnant with my daughter. Yeah. I gained like 700 pounds. I didn't get the memo. And so how much weight did you gain seriously? Seriously, like 60 pounds while on purpose. Now on Haagen Dazs

Charlie Ponger: 10:53

on haga. You're just hungry. No true that you do pickles and ice cream and all that crap. I

Debbie Charlie: 10:58

had a craving for Haagen DAAS and peanut butter mixed in vanilla hung and doesn't peanut butter every night. But anyway, story is that boom, boom, boom, I give birth is great, beautiful baby. And you know, she's only a couple pounds. But the rest of it got to do with her. And I finally lose some of the weight and some of the weight. And I knew I was going to come back when one day. A bunch of gardeners beeped at me. Oh, you knew you were bad. I knew I was coming back. Because I couldn't even wear a belt for a year. There was no waste. Yeah, that's okay. You know what I love about being a teenager what? The looks thing doesn't matter so much it does for me. No, no, I always we all do our best. You'd like to show up nice and do best, but it's not my priority.

Charlie Ponger: 11:40

i Oh, you mean as a woman? Yes. Yeah. Isn't that nice?

Debbie Charlie: 11:44

It's really, really, it's really a relief that I don't find this to be the key thing that matters in me showing up. I'm just happy to show up, right? I'm happy to be alive. I'm grateful to be alive. The right side of the daisies. Yeah, I'm on the right side of the daisies. And I'm grateful every day when I wake up. I say thank you. God. Let's rock.

Charlie Ponger: 12:02

Yeah, let's rock. Let's have some fun. Let's have some laughs Yeah.

Debbie Charlie: 12:05

And actually, I walk around. Sometimes I catch myself saying the reflection of the supermarket I go. Is that stuff stuck on you so appealing? I'm like, really? I should have maybe checked a little bit better. But who cares? Yeah, who cares? Oh, before we go, yeah. You're talking about leaving your car running? Yeah, I left my car running once. You did? I did. I did. So I can. So glad you admitted it first, because it's the most insane thing I've ever done. It was back before. I don't know, some years ago when I was meeting a guy on a date. And I was like, all nervous about the date. And I was meeting him. He was doing a job at the Bronx Zoo. He was like a big lighting guy, whatever guy and, and I was so nervous about the stupid date that I literally went got out of the car. We did the whole thing. And he walks me back to the car and he goes is your car running? I was like, so I guess this is not going to work. Like a real fastidious guy like everything I can't show it's not you know, I have to let me know if it's something must be snapped that day. And today too. You might have you might have snap snap crackle pop up here. X not

Charlie Ponger: 13:07

the first time I've done it though. Alright, then you should see. All right, so much fun. Hey, teenagers. We all have that teenager spirit, don't we? I don't know. I don't never want to lose it no matter our age 20 3040 and even us who are over 50 It's all about telling self deprecating funny stories and sharing stuff to make you laugh because you got to make fun of yourself, right? And you want to know what say hi to somebody you've never seen met before. You know, you never know it's gonna make them feel good. Alright, so tiny favor to ask from the official teenagers. So if you're listening to us and have Apple or Spotify, just scroll down till you see the ratings and review and just fill it out for us. By doing so it really helps us move up in the charts and then we can get exposure to more listeners. And yep, that's how it works. Also, sharing our show with your friends is also a tremendous help. It really takes a village. All right. So thanks in advance. Still next time. See you later.

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